Where cats like to be petted

Petting a cat well is less about technique and more about where and when. Most cats have clear favourite spots, and a few places that are best left alone.

The favourite spots

The cheeks, the chin and the base of the ears are the safest bets. These areas have scent glands, and when a cat rubs its face on you or on furniture, it is marking something familiar. In a 2015 study, cats responded more positively to strokes around the face, especially between the eyes and ears, and more negatively to strokes near the base of the tail.

Places to be careful

The belly, the base of the tail, the legs and the paws are sensitive for many cats. A cat that rolls over and shows its belly is often showing trust, not asking for a rub, and a hand on the belly can end in a surprise grab.

Let the cat lead

Offer a hand and let the cat come to you. Short strokes that follow the direction of the fur work best. If the tail starts to swish, the skin on the back twitches or the ears turn sideways or back, stop and give the cat a break. Letting a cat end the session makes it more likely to come back for more.

Ask before you pet

Hold your hand still near the cat. If it pushes its cheek or head into your hand, that is a yes. If it ignores you or moves away, try again later.